Help!!! I need to change, but it’s scary!

There, I said it. Change is scary. Living in the status quo is so much easier. My body, my mind, my heart, all are telling me that I need to make some life-style changes but I don’t know how. Maybe because I know that as soon as I do take baby steps


my skeptical husband will once again knock down my tenuous balance with a few well placed barbs. To him they would be ‘observations,’ or ‘truth’ and a reminder of earlier failures. So, rather than take that cold plunge, I hide and play it safe.

And what’s so astonishing is that I was able to give up smoking without any support. In fact the very opposite of support. I still lived with my parents who continued to blow smoke in my face even though they knew I was working on quitting. There were ashtrays and cigarettes everywhere, and still I managed.

Tell me. How do you make changes for yourself in a family setting when you don’t expect support? Do give me some feedback here. I really need it!


  1. Sir Winston, from the blog of Mr Midnight, Sir Winston and myself, says that change is always a frightening thing, although it doesn´t need to be. It´s probably natural that things that are not familiar are to be dubbed as frightening – afterall, we know about our past and many will often delve into their past with which to seek sanctuary for the “inconvenience” of having to change. Life is always changing (nature understands this basic rule) but we humans tend to sooner dive into our convenient “truths” and experiences of the past with which to solve our problems for the future.
    It´s much easier to avoid the pressures of change but in the long-run, we will not necessarily be much happier.
    Tackling change can be very difficult but well worth it.
    Most humans live life in the past or the future – the moment is where life happens.
    Let your “instinct” decide on the path you should take. Everyone is individual and only the individual can decide what is best for them.
    I hope you´re not totally baffled by our words.
    Best of greetings from the blog of Mr Midnight, Sir Winston and myself and good luck with your future path. 🙂

  2. My take on this…yes, it is hard, but you, dear Marlis, seem no stranger to discipline, change or will. You have created a life that is full of purpose and beauty. This is the next step, you will do it when you decide you want or need to. Some things are easier to change than others. Having support at home makes it so much easier, doesn’t it? How about online support? Here we are…all of us with a need to change, quit or add something to our lives. Form a committee, send around a petition, make a weekly meeting online or at a cafe…you can do it.

  3. I had quite changed the last line to: have a party…on the topic. And though wordpress did not allow me to post this with my blog account, this is Angela from A Homeschool Story!

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